{"id":74,"date":"2010-11-15T10:37:04","date_gmt":"2010-11-15T10:37:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.workplaceinteractors.com\/theinteraction\/?p=74"},"modified":"2011-10-28T16:52:51","modified_gmt":"2011-10-28T16:52:51","slug":"you-cant-punish-people-into-learning","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.workplaceinteractors.com\/theinteraction\/2010\/11\/15\/you-cant-punish-people-into-learning\/","title":{"rendered":"You can&#8217;t punish people into learning"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>British corporate change expert\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/pcchange.ning.com\/profile\/DavidRBovis\">David Bovis<\/a>\u00a0wrote in a discussion on LinkedIn, &#8220;Neurologically \/<a href=\"http:\/\/www.workplaceinteractors.com\/theinteraction\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/10\/baby-walking-sm1.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright size-medium wp-image-76\" title=\"Mother Helping Toddler Walk\" src=\"http:\/\/www.workplaceinteractors.com\/theinteraction\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/10\/baby-walking-sm1-200x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"200\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"http:\/\/www.workplaceinteractors.com\/theinteraction\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/10\/baby-walking-sm1-200x300.jpg 200w, http:\/\/www.workplaceinteractors.com\/theinteraction\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/10\/baby-walking-sm1.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 200px) 100vw, 200px\" \/><\/a> psychologically, we are &#8216;designed&#8217; to learn from mistakes, and we learn quicker from environments that provide positive reinforcement, forgiveness &amp; understanding following mistakes.&#8221; \u00a0He goes on to give the (wonderfully vivid) example of how we encourage babies learning to walk. No one ever says, &#8220;You little idiot, you&#8217;ll never walk. \u00a0Why even try again?&#8221; \u00a0And yet our feedback and evaluation systems tend to focus on what we&#8217;ve done wrong, in a punitive way.<\/p>\n<p>That reminds me of\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/marshallgoldsmithlibrary.com\/html\/marshall\/Marshall-Goldsmith.html\">Marshall Goldsmith<\/a>&#8216;s wonderful\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.marshallgoldsmithlibrary.com\/cim\/articles_display.php?aid=110\">Feedforward<\/a>exercise, which we&#8217;ve used with a number of different groups: \u00a0clients, our religious community, and even just between Dan and me. \u00a0Instead of focusing on the past (which we can&#8217;t change, anyway), feedforward encourages us to consider ways that we can do better as we move ahead.<\/p>\n<p>If you haven&#8217;t tried it, I urge you to check it out. \u00a0Marshall&#8217;s clever format helps stop our usual resistant brain-chatter and opens us up to true listening and real possibility. \u00a0People report feeling truly cared for after the exercise and tend to come away with a few good ideas for improving their lives. \u00a0One baby step at a time.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>British corporate change expert\u00a0David Bovis\u00a0wrote in a discussion on LinkedIn, &#8220;Neurologically \/ psychologically, we are &#8216;designed&#8217; to learn from mistakes, and we learn quicker from environments that provide positive reinforcement, forgiveness &amp; understanding following mistakes.&#8221; \u00a0He goes on to give the (wonderfully vivid) example of how we encourage babies learning to walk. No one ever &hellip;<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.workplaceinteractors.com\/theinteraction\/2010\/11\/15\/you-cant-punish-people-into-learning\/\" class=\"more-link\">Read More<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[8],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-74","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-how-we-learn"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.workplaceinteractors.com\/theinteraction\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/74","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.workplaceinteractors.com\/theinteraction\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.workplaceinteractors.com\/theinteraction\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.workplaceinteractors.com\/theinteraction\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.workplaceinteractors.com\/theinteraction\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=74"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"http:\/\/www.workplaceinteractors.com\/theinteraction\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/74\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":112,"href":"http:\/\/www.workplaceinteractors.com\/theinteraction\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/74\/revisions\/112"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.workplaceinteractors.com\/theinteraction\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=74"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.workplaceinteractors.com\/theinteraction\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=74"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.workplaceinteractors.com\/theinteraction\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=74"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}